The Ball in your Court (Updated)

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If you saw your very close friend's partner doing something u felt isn't right of someone who is attached,
Would you tell that close friend about it to protect her interest?
Or would you keep quiet about it to avoid injecting a conflict between them?

If you DID tell your close friend about it, and it results in a major scuffle between the couple, and eventually, a break up,
Would you consider yourself guilty for breaking up a supposedly 'happy' couple?

I mean, you know in the first place there already have been hair-line cracks or even fractures in their bond.
Maybe she did do something in the past to aggrevate the distrust in the relationship before.
But the fact remains that the straw was lying on the floor, silent and still.
You picked up the straw and placed it on the camel's back.
And the next thing you hear is a big CRRRRRRAACCCKk.
The camel's back broke.

So now your close friend's partner confronts you and blames you for everything.
She tells you she felt that what she did was really nothing, and you had to bring it up to your close friend to ruin everything.
She screams & yells & demands to know why you had to be such a busybody.

So now, other than the obvious retorting, arguements and reminders that she was the one who did wrong in the first place,
And that you're your close friend's CLOSE FRIEND so you'd obviously stand on your CLOSE FRIEND's side to inform anyways.
Other than that, what do you do?

Would you feel bad?
Would you feel guilty?
Would you wish you hadn't said anything about it?

Especially if in the beginning, your intention of telling your close friend was not for them to throw in the towel,
And you did not expect things to escalate into a 'GAME OVER'.

As much as you console yourself with the rightful reason that you were only protecting your close friend's interest,
Can you truthfully say that you don't feel bad a single bit?

I'd apologise ONLY for all the unhappiness, but I'd still feel I did the right thing for my friend.
If I was in that situation, I'd rather my close friend told me about it, than for her to keep silent just so I wouldn't be engaged in a quarrel.

What are friends for?
We have to protect each other right?

Sigh... the dilemmas of life.

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**UPDATE**: (With regards to Toreen's comment.)

What if the scenario was changed to that you KNOW she wasn't actually really cheating this time, and even your close friend KNOWS it too. But it was just an action that she did to someone else you just didnt feel was right, & you have a strong feeling that your close friend wouldn't approve of it either? She insists it was really nothing, but both you & your close friend (& perhaps everyone else too), feel that that very action done actually insults the relationship and her respect for your close friend as her S.O.?

And you don't know her well enough to bypass your close friend and give her -THE TALK-.

So my question now is, if it wasn't blatant cheating, but just an action she did to someone else (maybe slightly 'too-friendly' in an intimate way), that your close friend happened to NOT see, but everyone else who knew them there, saw. And you felt she was disrespectful to your close friend & not considering what other people around the both of them would have thought about your close friend.

Would you have said it?
Whether you put it nicely or not, let it out as gentle as possible to 'alert' your close friend...

The bottom question is, would you have told your close friend?
And if you did, and the consequence was a break-up between them,
Would you then have creeping thoughts that maybe, just MAYBE, you made a mountain out of a molehill?

Please state your current views. Your contributions will be greatly appreciated. Hee!